Are You Looking For More Sexual Pleasure? Find Out What You Need To Do!

By: Tony Darbyshire Click author's name for more of his/her articles

Make no mistake, there will always be tensions in a relationship if you're not getting sufficient sexual pleasure when you make love. I recently wrote an article and asked what some of the issues are that can arise for couples, with regard to their sex lives.

To remind you, or if you’ve not seen it, I raised a few simple questions that couples want answers to; first, do you feel you really do have sexual problems in your marriage? Second, do you find you want to make love more (or less) often than your partner does? Finally, do you feel that your partner doesn't work hard enough to give you sexual satisfaction?  

I then explained that you're not on your own if you're experiencing some issues that give you cause for concern; lots of couples do go through some tough times with their sex life, but the problems are surmountable. There are a number of things you can do to solve your sexual problems. Let’s take a look at a few simple guidelines that can get you both back on track to a healthy and satisfying sex life with your partner, so let's see what you need to do to get the sexual pleasure you (rightfully!) want.  

Number one. For all you ladies out there, let’s first kill off a misleading notion. There is this assumption that men do know all there is to know about making love and how to satisfy a woman. This notion is false because it just isn’t true that men know ‘everything’, even about you. It doesn't matter how long you've been partners, there will be things he won't find out... unless you're prepared to open up and tell him about them.  

The fact is that there are no two women who are totally alike, so there is no way your partner can know what you feel, and what really floats your boat in the marital bed, if you don’t tell him. Your primary job is to communicate with him and let him know what you actually do enjoy. The same goes for the man; talk to your partner and make sure you find out what she really enjoys and likes, what can really turn her on to give her the stimulating set of pleasures. Keep in mind that if she isn’t turned on by sex at the moment it could be for a host of reasons. Overwork is often a sex drive killer, or maybe she’s worrying about other family matters… the list is almost endless. Give support and don’t chastise her. The same goes for you ladies; if he isn’t in the mood, look at the underlying causes that can be making him not want to have sex. Work on those issues and it could provide you with the answer to what is going wrong.  

Number two; you have to start by communicating with your partner about the things that are concerning you. By talking you can open up to each other and be honest about how you feel. There are times when discussing private things can make you uncomfortable and they can even be a bit embarrassing, but you need to know what each other is thinking, and feeling. Whatever you do, just put the possible embarrassment to one side and communicate with one another.  

Number three. It is often believed that the man should be the one to initiate the lovemaking. Take my advice and throw that ridiculous theory out with the garbage! The plain fact is that a lot of men really love it when their woman takes control and initiates the sex. So, all you ladies, don't just get into the habit of lying there whilst your man does all the approach work. Learn to be responsive and take control when you want to. Maybe let him lay there while you get things moving in the right direction. Not taking the initiative often leads to a really boring time, and it’s this attitude that will cause your sex life to go on a rapidly downward spiral.  

Number four. Don’t be afraid to show your partner what you would like him, or her, to do. Sometimes verbally explaining what you would like isn't enough. In fact it’s often much easier when making love for you to guide each other’s hands to places you like to be touched. Try whispering sexy things into each other's ear about what you want your partner to do because it really is very sensuous. There will be times when your partner hits the right nerve and does something you find really pleasurable and exciting, so make damn sure you let him, or her, know. How? Simply by telling your partner that you like what they’re doing to you! And that you want a lot more of it!  

Ultimately, the bottom line to getting a much larger share of the sexual pleasure you want is dependent on COMMUNICATION between you. If you can't talk to each other freely, then you need some help. Making the effort to talk to each other will pay dividends and, ultimately, bring you closer together. The sexual pleasure will follow naturally.

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