Share |

Asian Dating is a Confidence Builder

By: Steve Eyes ... Click on author's name for more of their articles

Most of us have distinct levels of confidence. I’m sure you have met a multiplicity of confident types. I’m just as confident, that all of us have had our own confidence shaken once or twice. I know I have.

In relationships most of us have different degrees of confidence. There were times I felt like I could do no wrong and other times I couldn’t do anything right. The ups and downs of relationships are still a mystery to me. I don’t have all the answers, but a good number of us have in common some the similar feelings: the hope when you see someone you can’t take your eyes off of; the expectation of being on a first date; the instant when you kiss; the bliss of love; and also: the smack when someone says no; the bleakness when someone walks away, the emptiness when someone you love cheats on you and so on. We all have been their.

What happens after the worse has happen to you. I can give you a glimpse of the male’s viewpoint. You are in love. She is everything you could be looking for. She’s stunning, sexy, and makes you feel alive. You can’t wait to be with her or nearby her. You are on top of the world and life couldn’t be better. Then she walks away. No amount of begging will bring her back. The signs of her leaving were probably there, but you were too in love to see them. You cry, you drink, cry some more and the emptiness won’t go away. You are lost.

Then there is the guy who drinks a case a beer, cries for a night, says the hell with it after that parties the next night. This over enthusiastic soul creates such a whirlwind he leaves himself no time to mourn or to mull over his state of loss. When he crashes, his recovery is frequently a tough road.

For me, the old adage that time heals, had value. I had no wish to go clubbing. I was lonely, still grieving and didn’t have the confidence to get back in to the dating world yet again. As time went on, I found a secure, yet boring routine. I wanted to date again, but the thinking of it would give me flash backs of unpleasant moments. Sigh, loneliness was becoming my comrade.

Online dating was something I heard about and decided to test it out. I was tired of watching reruns on tv. It didn’t take long to seek out the many dating sites accessible on the net. I searched, researched, and joined. I was little by little and comfortably getting involved again. I could be situated at home in my sweats, talk with ladies online, and not have to deal with a crowd in a smoky bar room if a lady said “no”. Yet, the no’s were infrequent online. This was not a face to face ritual, but me on my keyboard and her on her keyboard that gave us both the wanted space to get acquainted. It was fun, relaxing and a confidence booster. Yes, I’ll say it again, a confidence booster.

How can online dating boost your confidence versus customary dating? It has to do with vulnerability. Think about it. If you just lost your confidence, would you rather face a lady in a multitude of others, or at home while using MSN chat or email. After a huge letdown, most of us struggle with the contemplation of going out in the cruel dating world were appearance is premium versus the power of words and feelings you communicate online. Whatever your state of mind may be at that moment, you can stumble on another person online feeling as you do. That’s hard to find in a smoky bar room under the effect of alcohol.

Finally my confidence did return to an acceptable level to venture out to the dance clubs. I had online dating to thank for that. For a while, I was playing in both worlds and saw some stark difference in what was authentic and what was not. Both have their pitfalls, but sooner or later I realized that the conventional dating world had many additional masks and traps that was not present in the online world. That’s another article. For now, I just want to say if you have misplaced your confidence because of a relationship failure, give your self time to mend and see if you can find yourself again by joining a good online dating site. I guarantee you will find your confidence again and if you are lucky, like me, you will find the love of your life.

Article Source: ABC Article Directory

About The Author: Filipina Lady and Asian Dating
Asian Wife and Asian Dating
Filipina Penpal and Filipina Dating

Note: The content of this article solely conveys the opinion of its author, Steve Eyes

Did You Like This Article? Share It With Your Friends!

Please Rate this Article

Not yet Rated

Click the XML Icon to Receive Free Articles About Dating via RSS!