Help My Marriage! - Three Steps To Marriage Recovery!

By: Claude J Anthony Click author's name for more of his/her articles

"Help, my marriage is failing" is the cry of so many broken-hearted, unhappy married couples. Perhaps this is your cry. If it is, I want to encourage you. I have counseled many couples with the same problems you have and have seen their marriages turned into loving, caring relationships.

You can do it too...with the help of some good advice and lots of love and tenaciousness.

**3 Important Help-My-Marriage Steps To Marriage Restoration**

"Help-My-Marriage" Step 1 - Don't Wait For Your Spouse!

More often than not one spouse is more aggressive in solving marriage problems than the other. This is not unusual. Of course it would be a lot better if both of you committed yourselves to solving your marriage problems, but that's not the way it usually happens.

So if you are the one who is taking the first step, go for it. Don't wait for your spouse. You can be the one to save your marriage by following the advice in this article! And I wouldn't be a bit surprised if your spouse sees the changes you are making and follows suite.

The most important thing is that you (or both of you) take responsibility for doing what you learn about marriage restoration and NEVER GIVE UP!

Divorce is never a good option. It destroys the people involved and, if there are children involved, it will tear them apart inside.

So learn all you can and take action.

"Help-My-Marriage" Step 2 - Don't Make Anchors Out Of Paper Clips!

The amazing thing is how easily we can make anchors out of paper clips. In other words, we can have a tendency of making something really light into something very heavy.

This is a common practice in troubled marriages.

Most things that disrupt marriages and cause arguments are really "paper clips". The problem is that you can easily turn these paper clips into anchors that end up causing your marriage to sink.

After 44 years of marriage, my wife and I have learned that a lot of things we argued about earlier in life were just plain stupid! Nothing! Dumb! Paper clips!

The sooner you learn the difference between paper clips and anchors, the sooner you will discover that anchors seldom exist. The real problem is usually hard-headedness and selfishness.

So why don't you just sit down with your spouse and spend some time taking a good objective look at those things that are killing your relationship and ask, is this really worth losing our love and marriage over? Nothing really is...is it?

Then be willing to sacrifice your own personal "paper clips" for the sake of the one you love. That's what real love is all about!

"Help-My-Marriage" Step 3 - Get The Communication Going!

Now it's time to talk...get some real communication going.

Both of you sit down and talk about what's been troubling your marriage. Remember, the objective is to talk, not to argue, fight or defend your position. Your aim is to restore the love in your marriage.

All you want to do here is to understand your spouse's feelings about what has been happening so that you can help heal the pain. That's what love does!

These are just a few "help my marriage" steps, but there is so much more you can do to assure yourself of a strong and happy marriage:

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