How to Dump Him Before He Dumps You in a Troubled Relationship

By: Carey Bain Click author's name for more of his/her articles

The signs are there, and they don't look good: he's more reserved, less involved, less affectionate and he looks at other women when he's with you. You're pretty sure he's planning on dumping you. And you want to beat him to it, to save face. Or make yourself feel better. You can get out of your relationship fairly easily, you just want to make sure you're the one that does it first. Depending on the relationship, there are a lot of ways you can use to dump him. These are the most popular:

Dumping Him Face-to-Face:

Always a classic way of dumping someone, it's the most respectful method of breaking up. Set up a time to meet and a place- stay away from public places like restaurants or clubs. Dumping him before he dumps you doesn't need to be a spectacle or a screaming match. You can dump him clearly, cite the reasons or why it isn't working out, and let him go.

Dumping Him Via Friends:

Using a friend or friends to dump him makes sense if you're afraid he'll take the news badly or might cause a scene. Sometimes friends will break the fact that you're dumping him more gently than you ever could.

Dumping Him Via Social Networks:

Suddenly announcing, on Facebook or Twitter, for example is the best way to dump a guy you want to hurt. He'll be the last to know, and it's public humiliation. Be aware that he can use it to get back at you in the same way. You might be giving him a great idea of his own revenge.

Dumping Him Over the Phone:

It's more nerve-wracking than writing an email or letter, but easier than telling him to his face you're dumping him. It also gives him the chance to hang up on you if he wants to, and reply to you in real-time. It depends on what kind of reaction you expect he'll have to the news you're dumping him before he can dump you.

Dumping Him By Mail:

Whether it's writing him an email or an old-fashioned snail mail, writing a letter can be both cleansing and cathartic. It gives you more time to say everything you need to say clearly. It also gives him a memento to remember you by, if that's what you want.

With all of the technology we have available today, it's making dumping someone a matter of choice and preference. Each way has its own underlying message attached. When you want to dump him before he dumps you, you've got a buffet of options to choose from.

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About The Author: Carey Bain is a relationship therapist whose love advice has helped many to find their soul mates and maintain a healthy relationship for a lifetime. She is known for her wonder-working relationship advice and tips that has sailed many thankful couples through hard times. Discalimer: Permission is granted to republish this article provided it is reproduced in its entirety with this resource block included.