Listening With Your Heart

By: Brian Gosur Click author's name for more of his/her articles

I looked down at my infant grand-daughter as she was crying. Crying was her way of saying something was wrong.she knew how. We would eventually figure it out and her needs would be filled.

As we grow older we learn the art and skills of communication. We learn how to get under brothers skin so we can get him in trouble. Or we learn how to turn on the charm with grandpa to get that ice cream we want.

The skills that teach us to get what we want or need are honed in from the I believe we are living with a society that was raised and given anything that their They have turned their wants into feeling that they are needs.They insist them and consider that this is their entitlement to have these possessions. I have seen it in my own family and I am sure many of you have seen it in yours as

regrettably we have grown up to believe that the the human race owes me and must pay attention to what I am crying about. Not so. I grew up thinking this way and it was a long and challenging journey to understand that as long as I was constantly yacking with my mouth, I wasn't hearing what everyone else had to express and I was by no means going to discover and grow if I didn't study the fine art of listening with your heart.

"Thw squeaky wheel gets the grease", that's what your thinking. Sad to say, most of the time that is true. People who talk a lot are usually in sales. They are people that move up the ladder faster. They step on everybodies toes to get wherever they are going and to be heard. They are forever running a hundred miles an hour, and never stop to smell the roses. It is not in their make-up.

But most of the people that I know that are like this are never really happy. They struggle with relationships. Getting what they want always comes in the way of manipulating others. They are still in that babies crib crying for their needs to be met.

I too was on this road until I met a person who truly listened to me. generally people don't know how to listen. They go through the motions like they are listening, but they aren't. They are just looking for the first exit out the door. But this individual became a extremely close friend of mine. I liked talking to him because he listened. I mean he really listened, and he cared, he really cared. I could tell, he was not faking it.

remember what I said. He would, days latter, ask me about how something, that I talked to him about, was going. Was I really hearing this right? Somebody really listened to what I said. I felt important. I felt valued, but most of all, I felt loved.

I grew up in a family that everybody talks and no one listens. every person just talks over everyone else. To this day, when we get together as a family, it is just a huge noise of people talking, and talking loud, so as to be heard. I would just look round at this chaotic mess of words soaring into meaningless space and no one is hearing them, let alone understanding them.

Well I quickly learned it was not easy to undo what years of talking had done. I had to re-program myself and force myself to learn to listen. Now I don't mean just sitting still and being quiet and letting the other person talk. If this was all it took, you might as well talk to a wall. Walls will probably listen to you just as well as anybody else would. You have to learn to hear and understand with your heart. You heard the old saying. " God gave you two ears and one mouth." That should tell you something.

I have a business that I run. Learning MLM secrets. Now, I know a lot of people that do their business with their mouths, but that is the old fashioned way. I do business with my ears now. People buy from people that they trust. When I found a friend that listened to me and took the time to learn who I am, I trusted him. I liked him, because he gave me something that no one else ever did. He gave me his precious time and he listened to me. He didn't say it with words, but with his heart he was saying, " Brian, your important to me, and I care about you". For you business people, you will get a lot more sales when you learn the skill of listening with your heart.

Not only will listening with your heart do wonders for your business, but wait till you try it at home. Your wife will think that you died and someone has taken over your body. Your kids will actually want to help you around the house. Because they will have found, not just a dad, but a dad who wants to take time listening with your heart. You'll make them feel important, valued, and most of all.....loved.

Try it. It won't be an easy transition, but with constant work, you will nail it down and get really good at it. It will change your life.

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About The Author: Brian Gosur is the president and CEO of Expert Innovations Inc. Marketing Modeled Startegies Specifically for Your Business Learning MLM Secrets Brian Gosur