Signs That Say You Are Ready To Date Again

By: Patrick Attlee Click author's name for more of his/her articles

Starting dating to compensate for negative things going on in your life can be a dangerous path to start down. It is natural to feel the need to find a partner to make your self feel better but you should resist this urge until you have sorted out the other things in your life so you can devote the time and energy that is required when starting a new relationship. This article lists some of the things that you have going on in your life that should give you pause before rushing out on a date.

Bereavement. Obvious as this may sound, many bereaved people look for love as a means of trying to feel better. It is part of the human makeup that we try, in these circumstances to not be alone, to show death that we are carrying on and that it does not hold dominion over our lives. This however, is one of the the worst times to start trying to engage with another human being. You must embrace your grief and work it through you system before embarking on any new romantic entanglements. You can actually prolong your grieving if you engage in dating too soon after a bereavement.

Job loss. If you lose your livelihood then you need to focus on that. A job is actually like a relationship and takes time to settle into. You can't do both at the same time and you will feel much more stable and self confident if you have a job before you embark on the dating scene.

Home loss. Forget the impulse should you lose your home to immediately start dating someone who has a place to live. This has disaster written all over it. Unless you find a new home first you will be pursuing the other person out of your need for housing rather than a desire for them. Total carnage.

Depression. You probably notice a pattern here. If you are depressed you will go looking for a partner out of a need and not a want which is not fair on them. If you are truly depressed, i.e. have been feeling sad for more than two weeks, you are always crying and you feel tired then going on a date will not solve these problems. You need to take action on getting to the cause of these feelings and work them out before you will have any energy left to properly devote to another person.

Rebound. In the aftermath of being dumped, it is all to easy to go rushing out there to meet someone new. The goal is to a) prove to yourself that you are still attractive and b) to show your ex how sexy and desirable you are and what a terrible mistake they have made running off with that total loser. Please try to put these thoughts from your mind, going down this route is again, feeding a personal need. This is not fair on yourself or your date.

Keeping these thoughts in mind can really help ascertain if you are ready to be dating or not.

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About The Author: Patrick Attlee is a journalist who writes mainly about relationships and dating. However ever since he bought a queen memory foam mattress he has become passionate about spreading the word about visco elastic foam mattress technology