Sleep and Sex Drive: Is Sleep Deprivation Putting A Damper on Your Nights Of Passion?

By: Matthew White Click author's name for more of his/her articles

The two big "S's," Sleep and Sex. Neither is an issue, usually, until you're not getting any. Sleep and sex are intimately related. Let's face it. They are the two main events going on in your bedroom, are they not? I think that all of us have taken one over the other at some point. Chances are, we were younger and had no children when we chose sex. Regardless, if your sleeping habits have become a problem - you're sleep deprived and having restless nights - chances are that the problems in the bedroom are just beginning.

We really take things for granted when we "have it good". When everything is on the up-and-up, we curl up with our partners come bedtime, and get a little lovin'. It's not that complicated. But when we have been awake all day, after having been up all night - usually that "special feeling" is thwarted by the desire for just a few extra zzz's. I'm not embarrassed to say that I too have chosen to just close my eyes and get a few extra hours of sleep, rather than do "the nasty". Even though my husband may never admit it, there have also been times when the hardworking truck driver is just "too tired" after an eighteen hour day. We're only human.

There is lots of support for how adequate sleep enhances our love lives. It provides us with the energy that is necessary. It helps us to deal with stressful situations more effectively during the day, so that we do not take our stress to bed with us at night. Also, it simply makes us physically capable of having enjoyable intimate time with our partner.

Things can get even more complicated when you look in to different sleep concerns. Snoring, for example can drive a major wedge in between a couple. When one partner snores and one partner is kept awake by the snoring, both can become resentful. It is not anyone's fault if he or she snores. However, sometimes it is difficult not to blame the suspect snorer for a partner's loss of sleep. Sometimes snoring is so bad that one person may have to leave the room. This physical separation is detrimental to the couple's feelings of closeness and intimacy. It's hard to actually have sex with your partner, when he or she is sleeping in the spare room.

A good night's sleep is healthy for so many reasons. It really can be linked to a healthy sex life. If you are a parent, you know how things change on many levels after a child is first born. One of the major reasons most couples see a drop in their sexual activity after a little bundle of joy enters their lives, is not necessarily the stress that the new situation can bring. But, rather it's the fact that they both know they're going to have to get up in a couple of hours and sometimes - as much as it may hurt to admit it - it just isn't worth it. You'd love to do it and you would if you could - you're just too tired to put yourself into it. Of course, you don't need to have children to know what sleep deprivation is. Regardless, it's frustrating and disheartening when something as seemingly simple as sleep, can actually reek havoc in an otherwise healthy relationship. Our lack of sleep can occur for many reasons and has plenty of detrimental effects on our lives - our dwindling sex drive being just one. When you are exhausted you're more irritable, have difficulty focusing and would trade sex for sleep in a second if it meant 8 uninterrupted hours. So, maybe you need to ask yourself, is sleep deprivation the real reason behind your sexual woes?

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About The Author: Matthew White, the Sultan of Snooze, is the author of "Sleep Anywhere Anytime in 7 Minutes or Less" and "Eliminate Jet Lag Now". In his experience nearly all insomnia is curable. His work has proved this countless times. Matthew's mission is to pull back the curtain on those cures. Follow him on * Twitter * Facebook