Nothing is probably lonelier than living a life devoid of quality and lasting connections. Man was created to be social beings - they are meant to enjoy their life with people they can laugh and cry with, tell stories to, and share experiences with.
Not all people will eventually find a lifetime partner, have children, or get married. But they can all fill the void with meaningful friendships which help make life more fulfilling.
Here are 5 good ways to make great friends. Some of them are often overlooked. It's time to pay them all a second look.
Meet some new people
Getting more out of your current relationships can go a long way, but it doesn't always work. Sometimes you're at a point where you need to meet entirely new people. Not having easy access to potential new friends is a big barrier for many people in creating a social circle.
Try to be in a situation where lots of potential friends are around, and you naturally have to get to know them through your day-to-day interactions. Work and school are the two big ones. Or meet one or two good people and then get to know all their friends. Try to be with people you already have something common, like an activity, hobby or sport. It's easier to spark the interest of other people if you have something familiar to talk about. Meeting new people may require making an effort to pull out of your day-to-day routine. If most of your hobbies are solitary you might also need to add some more people-oriented ones to the mix. Also, the easiest way to naturally meet a lot of people is just to live a full, interesting life and run into lots of potential friends as a side effect.
Be More Than a Fair-Weather Friend
Be ready to help friends through a difficult time. Friendships sometimes end when one person experiences a rough patch and feels that the other person just wasn't there for them. When a friend is hurting, reach out before your friend needs to ask you for help.
Do your best to accept every invitation
Of course, making your own plans is important, but if someone asks you to hang out, then that's even better. If someone invites you to do something, then you should go. Why turn down a free chance to get out there with people? When you've got more friends and different options competing for your time you can be more choosy.
If you're more of a shy or solitary person it's easy to mull over the invitation and rationalize that it won't be that fun and that you don't want to go. Ignore those thoughts and go anyway. You never can be sure how fun something will be until you show up and see how it is for yourself. Sometimes you'll have to inconvenience yourself for the sake of your social life. Whenever you have two or more people in the equation, you're going to have to compromise sometimes.
Always Give Value. Don't Take.
If you want to get people to like to and to be friends with you then you first need to show them that you give value of some sort, and not leech from them. But being friendly and social is not enough to build friendships. You need to give before you can receive. The value that you give doesn't have to be materialistic or monetary value. You can provide value in many different forms like status value, high energy, positivity, inspiration, motivation, companionship (i.e. offering to join someone in an activity) etc.
The rule of reciprocity is one that is deeply engrained into society. If someone does something for you then you feel obliged to return the favor.
Say nice things about other people.
It's a kind way to behave; also, studies show that because of the psychological phenomenon of spontaneous trait transference, people unintentionally transfer to you the traits you ascribe to other people. This simply means that the things you say about other people automatically are attached to you. Besides, not one wants to be friends with a mean-spirited person who trashes other people. People are attracted to positive vibes - and saying nice things about others certainly gives you that positive vibe people are searching for in every new friend.
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